There is a curious and compelling mystery in love. This mystery may appear to be a paradox. To put it one way, really loving others is to love myself and really loving myself is to love others. This reality is present in all deep friendships. In the context of marriage, for instance, loving your spouse is to love yourself and loving yourself is to love your spouse. In my personal experience, the longer I’ve been married to my wife, and the more our friendship has deepened, the more difficult it is for me to know where I end and where she begins.
Learning to participate in this Mystery is what we are made for, as people designed to share in the very nature of the personal, tri-une God. This Mysterious Love is in fact the essential makeup of the Divine.